October 20th, 2017

People often think that having a child with additional needs places a strain on relationships and leads to divorce or relationship breakdown.
Research has shown that this is not the case. Parents of typically developing children are more likely to part ways than those of children with additional needs.
Marriage, like all long term relationships, is hard. Parenting is hard. Parenting a child with additional needs is hard. Having a common goal, drive, or direction is one of the most important parts of our marriage and it’s certainly helped us to stay on track.
My husband is my biggest supporter, Emma’s biggest advocate, and he will do anything to make us both happy. I like to think that I am the same for him. I am grateful that he has my back and that he takes the time to listen when I speak, and holds me when I cry. I cry a lot more than I used to, worry more than I used to, and sleep much less than I used to. He’s there. He may not have any idea what to say or how to fix it, but I know that he’s there.
He wants Emma to be accepted and respected, and so do I. It’s anything anyone ever wants for their child. To know that we’re a team, a family, is the greatest.

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