October 24th, 2017

Support networks mean so much to me. I wouldn’t be as confident in my ability to parent Emma if I didn’t have my army behind me. My friends who have typically developing kids are just as important as my friends who have kids with Down syndrome. Both give me a sense of ‘normal’, the reassurance that none of us have any idea what we’re doing, and the ability to be completely honest about how I’m feeling.
As a person, I have never felt so lost as I have these last 18 months. I feel like I’m stuck, like I’m not achieving anything, that this is not what I expected being a Mum. So many Mums feel this way, but we just don’t talk about it enough. We all love our children with every fibre of our being, but that doesn’t mean that sometimes we wish things were different.
It’s freaking hard being a parent, and that will never stop. Having a support network around you, even if it’s just a chat every so often or a quick catch up while we wrangle the kids, is amazing. I am so thankful for my network of amazing mums who just get it... and for the complete and unconditional love that this girl gives me. 💛💙😘

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